Day 19/30 post-Bootcamp
Took Sunday off to clear some personal affairs.
Went out for Daygame for an hour downtown with DP & Trackstar today. We coined some new vocabulary for the community:
- Chat: to replace “ug” or “uncool”. Think “female chode”. This is Sydneysider-term.
- Dead Seagulls / Fuertes: So DP & I were talking about Derek P Girls (girls who look under 21, or who are under 21), and Trackstar misheard us and thought we were talking about Dead Seagulls. So, we started calling Derek P Girls Dead Seagulls. Fuertes is a Norwegian term I believe, describing 14 year olds who date 18 year olds over in Scandivania.
On to the daygame.
We met up at Union Square. There were like 3-4 sets/girls I could have approached here, but didn’t. Slap on the wrist for that.
We head towards downtown, we send DP to chase a Dead Seagull.
Get downtown, in front of the mall. Spot 2 Asian girls. DP says he wants to open them. I say if he doesn’t I will. He tells me to. I open direct, flirt with both of them, DP comes in to wing (more on this below). I want to leave the set (more on this below), DP stays in, so I end up staying in as well. We could have pushed this set further but at the time we considered it a warmup.
Walk around the mall a bit, talk to some girls, bounce over to the Gardens.
We sat and chilled for quite a bit, practicing reads of people’s body language in the park and picking out the various ethnicities of girls sitting around (damn, we are good at this shit).
As we’re leaving, I open a FOB-looking girl sitting with her headphones on.
Because she had her headphones on, I wanted to try some of the compliance framing stuff that ET talks about (there was a specific compliance stack that I was thinking about). Unfortunately, I hadn’t learnt the stack, so I improvised. Something like this:
whim: Hi. (motion for her to take headphones off)
FOB: (tries to ignore me – you think someone who’s standing in front of you is going to walk away just because you pretend you didn’t hear them?)
whim: How’s it going? (sit) What kind of music are you listening to? Actually, first let me ask you something.
FOB: (turns to face me, headphones still in)
whim: What kind of work do you do?
FOB: But I don’t know you.
whim: I’m just being friendly. (pause/vacuum).
FOB: (silence)
whim: I’m interested. I find that with the work that I do, when I work I can’t listen to vocal music, because I can only focus on one thing at a time.
FOB: I’m listening to Pop. Who are you?
whim/FOB: (some chitchat about work and the city)
whim: Oh cool. You know, your English is really good, but you have a slight accent. I’m going to say that you’ve lived in America for a long time, but you grew up somewhere else. Probably Japan.
FOB: (wide-eyed and coyly) Maybe…
whim: (feeling no particular reason to stay and wanting to leave) Haha, my friends are waving to me. I gotta go. (kino)
So I pretty much messed that one up. Rereading the material, I missed the frame (open-minded), didn’t verbalise her objection first (“So you’re probably a bit startled that I’m asking you all these questions”), and didn’t really bait all that well. But it was a cool learning experience anyway. I could have stayed longer in the set by saying that I had dated a Japanese girl before and dropping in some cultural facts (this forms a lesson below).
My main lesson out of this was that if I suspect a girl is FOB, drop the framing, keep it simple and go in dominant instead.
Other lessons from today:
- Stick in sets and push them more. I should have some default material to just spit out whenever I feel a set is going stale. I am usually pretty good at reading where the energy of a set is at, and usually if there isn’t a super-strong hook I’ll leave. This is a bad habit that needs to DIE… I just need to plough.
- Learn my stack more.
- Got some very cool body language tips from Trackstar.
- Do more approaches.
- It’s fucking weird to go from “out of state” to “in state” immediately after saying hi to my wings – I should be able to make that transition myself.
- Going direct on 2-sets during the day is fine, as long as I keep talking.
- There is no real smooth way to introduce a wing during the day – just do it… if you go direct in the first place the girls know what’s up anyway.
- Need to dominate my sets more.
- Need to present my stereotype better (it actually works pretty well for SF).
- whim
