Day 20/30 post-Bootcamp
After taking yesterday off, today I’m suppoed to be celebrating the “take-off” phase of my new going-out habit.
But, the City of San Francisco and myself served up a double-fail.
Trackstar, DP & myself hit up the mall at about 5pm for some daygame.
There were NO targets. I can’t make this shit up. DP – who is usually all about SF women – even was like WTF is going on. After doing a round of the mall we were both bummed and decided to go eat dinner.
On the way home from dinner, I missed two opportunities to open – no one to blame here for but myself, and I’m going to start forming a new habit which I’ll explain below that will fix this.
The first was an OK-looking Asian girl who basically eyefucked me as I walked past. The second was the cute black girl waiting for the elevator in the lobby of my building (cute black girls are even rarer than the one-in-ten-thousand cute girls in SF, so I really messed this one up). We made eye contact and exchanged Hi’s, but I didn’t push conversation. She obviously wanted to talk to me as when the elevator stopped at her floor she was like “Oh, see you soon!”. The best I could muster with my headphones on was “sure” and a smile.
All-in-all, today really sucked.
To take something positive away from today, I’ve been noticing two things. 1) I don’t really make an effort to push interactions for some sort of close, 2) I haven’t made that much of an effort to integrate pickup into my everyday life.
I’m going to start making habits of both, so…
1. When I’m in an interaction and am about to leave, I’m to stick in for a couple more minutes, and try to run another routine or escalate.
2. Every time I see a fuckable girl give me an AI, I *must* talk to her. Whether she turns out to be nothing more than a gatekeeper or a hot date, not talking to her negates the chance of her becoming anything. So if I’m in line at Starbucks and girl looks over at me, I’m to go talk to her. If I pass a girl on a street and she smiles and makes eye contact, I’m to go talk to her. Apart from getting me to approach more, this also has the advantage of me integrating “getting into state” and “approaching without state” into my game more.
- whim
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I don’t understand the way you’re doing this … I mean … you’ve been in the community for soooo long and … you don’t approach on site?
My advice is that you should stop learning about pickup and start approaching approaching approaching. You shouldn’t think when you approach, just go there. If you don’t know what to say, rote learn a CHEATSHEET and keep it with you but ALWAYS approach.
I would’ve caught the girl that was leaving the elevator by the arm and tell her I was shy or wteva’
Think like a beast man, you want to fuck, not stay silent.
Hey dude,
Yeah, I’ve known about the Community for 3 years. How much time have I spent actually developing my game? About 1-1.5 out of those 3 years. My history with the Community has always been this: go out a lot for 6 months, then take 6 months easy. Go out a lot for 6 months, then take 6 months or 12 months easy. I’m coming off an intense 9 months of nothing but work, so you’ll have to excuse me if my approach habits are a bit rusty
- whim
Oh, didn’t knew.
Friendly advice: I’ve got 3 jobs … and I know how intense some weeks may get … but 9 months of work seems like you’re not living your life. People usually work years and years to achieve wealth so they can have fun … but loose time that would’ve given them the chance to do exactly that.
Thanks dude, couldn’t agree more.
- whim