FR & thoughts for 12/13/2008 – Daygame
I haven’t been out for daygame for a while. In fact, I think it’s about 1.5 months now. So today was interesting for that reason. It was also interesting for the reasons that I’ll discuss below. But first, the sets.
Warmup girls
Set: First set. I don’t want to do it, but JB pushes me. I go. 2 set of white girls. Open direct. Say hi, introduce myself. She tells me that her ex-husband had the same name and can’t talk to me. She is engrossed in texting on her phone. Her semi-ugly friend is giggling. I took the comment as a blowout (no one in the US has the same name as me, or at least no one pronounces it the way that I do).
Good: Opened, despite not wanting to.
Bad: Relatively quiet opening. Didn’t engage the set at an energetic level.
Loss point: Upon opening. I was lower energy than they were and going direct – bad combination.
Improvements: Open higher energy. If she brings up the comment about the ex-husband, tease her and stack forward.
HBSomethingIsOff
Set: Blonde girl with her mum and grandmother. I almost wasn’t going to open her, but she waited outside the store as her mother/grandmother went inside. Open, overly direct. Lock in. Question, talk, convey a story. Question, talk, convey a story. She is not giving back to the interaction. Her grandmother comes out of the store. She says she has to go.
Good: Opened. Normal talk.
Bad: Opener wasn’t well calibrated – from the way she talked and acted she came off as a little strange, my guess is she’s a mismatcher. Her image of herself and the SOI I gave her were likely disproportional.
Loss point: Fluffing and not leading the interaction.
Improvements: Less direct opener. Cold read/tease. Stack forward into a frame. Pay more attention to the obvious time constraint (her mother/grandmother shopping) and go for the #-close.
HBAsian
Set: Another girl who disappeared into a store. She re-emerged, and the guys sent me after her. Opened. She immediately asked where I was from. I stopped momentarily as I introduced myself, but she kept walking. Followed her into another store. She told me she was looking for her boyfriend.
Good: Opening. Stacking forward. Light teasing.
Bad: Didn’t stand still and lock in. Normally it’s fine to walk with girls, but in this case she was sprinting.
Loss point: Walking with her and letting her lead.
Improvements: Open strong/higher energy. Grab her slightly, pull her in to talk to her. Walk on my terms. If boyfriend objection emerges, tease her about it. Stack into frames.
HB40
Set: JB sent me after her. Opened, noticed that she was 10 years older than she initially looked. Delivered opener, ejected.
Good: Opened. Locked in against a wall.
Bad: Leaving set.
Loss point: Leaving set.
Improvements: Should have bantered just for the heck of it.
Thoughts and Observations
- I have no problems approaching, even if I haven’t done it for a while. Just a couple of warmup sets makes everything good.
- My issues with not wanting to push the interaction forward that extra 5% are definitely showing through. I could have #-closed the strange blonde girl if I had paid more attention to the logistics and pushed for it. Ditto with HB40.
And that brings me to the title of the post: I have decided to leave the Community temporarily. I’ve realised that my life is not a series of parallel tracks but rather paths that intertwine and interconnect. Attempting to separate them has caused more undesirable effects than desireable, so I’m choosing not to do that any longer. Basically, there’s other stuff in my life that needs to be sorted out, and I need to take the time and do it.
The great thing is the last time I did this (took time away from the Community and focussed on the rest of my life), when I came back, my game improved really rapidly. I expect that the same thing will happen when I return – all the advances made in the rest of my life will filter through into my game.
This will mean no going out “just for sarging” anymore. It means that I’m not going to go look for FBs to replace the ones that I haven’t called back. Sure, I can (and will) talk to girls in my everyday life. I will continue to learn NLP skills, as those have a broader application my life. I will continue to lead the framed routine stack group I have running, as I’m commited to that. But no more sarging for the sake of sarging. At least not for a while 
- whim
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I’ll be waiting for your posts.
Looking forward to the day you come back… sarging with you was/is a lot of fun :p