FR for 11/07/08 – Streetlightgame
Met up with Murti and Grifter in the evening. It was already getting dark, so the streetlights were on and it had a weird “bouncing between bars” feel to it.
After Juggler’s talk earlier in the week, I decided to read up on some of his theory a bit and found it pretty interesting. I think it forms a good foundational base of conversational and social skills, something that I’ve never had. I’ve gained *some* social skills simply through involvement in game, but the way I see things having “game” is just having a subset of a wider skill set which is social dynamics. I’ve decided that I’m going to give Juggler Method a try for a while, and slowly blend it in with what I already do. So my aim for today was to open and continue conversations Juggler-style.
It was my first time out with Murti so we spent a bit of time talking about game, approaches and all that good stuff. We all did a couple of approaches.
Girl 1
Set: Asian girl wearing fuck-me boots walking down the street. I thought she was a FOB. Opened direct and turned out she wasn’t. We talked a bit, I tried to ask some open-ended questions but kinda messed it up and ending asking leading questions. She was warm and friendly, no idea why I left the set.
Good: Opened. Attempted to go into an open-ended question. Kept things light and non-gamey. Used the situational (hand-drawn map in her hands) to bounce into her internal conversation.
Bad: Probably gave a bit too much attention to her up front (offered to give her directions). Did not do an easy stack into a number-close.
Loss point: Leaving early and not number closing.
Improvements: I would have asked her a question about what she’s shopping for, then create a vacuum based on that. I would then have told her that “look, I’d love to get to know you better but I really don’t want to go shopping with you at the moment. Let’s exchange contact details and we’ll get a cup of coffee sometime”.
Girl 2
Set: Girl standing by herself outside the mall. Opened direct, and just as I was finishing my opener a guy walks up and says hi to her, who I assumed was her date – he was dressed in a full suit and tie. My opener kinda went… “hey, I wanted to come over and tell you that you look absolutely adorable… I’m whim… (guy walks up)… and this must be your date for the evening”. Said hi to her date (who she interestingly introduced as “this is just my friend”), wished them both a good evening and left. Murti and Grifter were watching in the background cracking up lol.
Good: Opening. Not flipping out when her date walked in.
Bad: Could probably have chatted with them for a bit longer (?)
Loss point: Leaving set.
Improvements: Not really sure. I have no idea where I could have taken it given that they were clearly on their way to dinner or something.
Analysis
Juggler Method is cool. I need to read up more on it (still don’t really get the theory/structure) and maybe list out some examples to try out. As usual, I also need to be pushing my sets further and further.
I have cut back my gaming to 1 night and 2 days out per week. That’s my bare minimum commitment at the moment, I have too much other stuff going on in my life to do substantially more.
I would eventually like to build up a strong foundational skill set in Juggler-style conversation – it’s light, it’s witty and it really is the basic building block of person-to-person communication. On top of it, you can layer all sorts of things – more sexually-charged SOIs, conversational framing, advanced pacing and leading, speed seduction patterns, attraction routines, banter…
- whim
