FR for 10/18/2008 – Nightgame
Trackstar was gracious enough to show me some nightgame tonight.
I did a bunch of sets, all of them went something along the lines of:
- Open with “hi” or something direct
- Quick comment
- Some playful kino
- Eject
So the sets themselves weren’t all that important to me, but what was important was all the crazy realisations I had throughout the night.
Here are some of them:
- My daygame vibe and energy level just doesn’t cut it for nightgame. It’s loud, there are people bumping into you and the girls and there’s way to much stuff going on.
- I have a LOT of BAD Community beliefs left over from the old days that I need to kill – e.g., “I’ve been hovering and my social value just dropped, I can’t approach those girls” or “She gave me an AI but I walked past her, I can’t go back and talk to her”.
- My inner game needs a lot of work still.
- I was in a weird stifled state most of the night. I guess I can call this approach anxiety. Though really, it’s divided into a number of components: lack of familiarity with a new environment (in this case, nightclubs & bars) and fear of physical harm (when approaching mixed sets). There is no fear of rejection, and in the cases where I did get blown out quickly it did not sting or hurt nor did my state drop.
- State fluctuations. When I was in set, I felt great, had a strong energy and was generally “on”. But as soon as I got out and starting standing around a bit, my state dropped. This is weird, as I don’t experience this drop when I do daygame. It’s also somewhat disconcerting as the state pump is obviously from validation from being in set, so it’s probably yet another weird fucked up belief I have that says “Cool guys talk to other people at bars, so I must be talking to other people to be cool”.
- I have a stronger intent to approach at night as girls are all dolled up and looking fabulous. I think a result of me doing more nightgame would be this intent crossing over into the daytime and my “woo” from daygame crossing over into the nighttime.
- Trackstar, James Bond & Funlife all had one thing in common: they had a super fun vibe about them (“woo” for the lack of a better term) and this came through in all their subcommunications.
- Feeling the need to hold a drink in a bar is a weird social construct that needs to go.
- My outer appearance still conveyed rock-solid confidence and higher value but my inner game/feeling was shot to hell tonight.
My action items:
- Write a nightgame stack of frames that can be set using more BT-spike-style attraction material (hard to describe what I mean). Enhance this stack by adding in some structure (e.g., using LIOs and taking a look at Sinn’s attraction-comfort-seduction frames methodology and Vision’s post on framing like a Jedi).
- A good structure might be: Hi/LIO, quick question, cold read, waypoint and then either eject (short set) or move into conversational framing.
- Pick some simple state pumping activities to do before going on/when out.
- Develop my intent more.
- Do inner game work to enhance useful beliefs and kill limiting beliefs.
- Don’t drink when out at night. I had one beer tonight, next time I will aim to have none.
- Do some NLP work to transfer over the general concepts of “self-amusement” and “not caring what others think” from my state during daygame over into nightgame.
- My major sticking points for nightgame are therefore: 1) approaching, 2) having fun/self-amusement.
- whim
