Day 17/30 post-Bootcamp
Took 2 days off to recover from jetlag. It sorta worked.
Tonight was my first night back out in SF (fuck it, there, now y’all know where I live).
The Night
Met up with Trackstar downtown. Took the BART. Hit up the Outer Mission. First bar: 2 doable sets, but general restaurant feel and a flop. Second bar: ditto. Third bar: there was a meetup going on. Trackstar hated it as his game is at a point where he can be selective with targets. I probably should have stayed longer and talked to more people, but whatever. It was mostly older people and generally unattractive women (more on this later). General chit-chat with some people and opened one girl fairly direct as a warmup.
We bounce, pass one trendy bar on the way to the other part of the Mission (it was too restauranty for the time). First bar, there are 3 attractive girls there. Trackstar opens two of them, passes them onto Jtex and K. I chat a bit with K’s friend. Bounce to next bar. Again, it’s better but mostly women I consider unattractive (you’ll see a theme developing, and I’ll elaborate more on this in a bit). Open 2 cutesy girls on the way out. One of them is really into me. There friend joins and they introduce me to her. DP opens the joining-friend but she blows him out. Third friend drags away the other two 
Next bar. No attractive women.
Bar-of-last-resort. There is one accessible attractive set and Trackstar is on it immediately. DP joins us, we chat a bit then decide to go outside. He opens a 3-set of girls (1 lesbian, 2 straight). The conversation kinda fizzles as I’m starting to feel the effects of jetlag by this point (sorry dude!). DP decides he wants to hang out with Jtex and leaves. I go back inside to wing Trackstar.
This 3-set was interesting. All girls are NOT my type at all, but hey, when you’re winging you’ll do whatever to keep your man in set. I wish that Trackstar had picked a target earlier, but it seemed to work out well anyway. We all talked, some social kino, then they went to dance. Later on in the night, reopened them and right before I headed home I saw Trackstar with his chosen target outside the bar. I texted him to “kino, bounce, SNL”. Hopefully he did!
Second set in the bar-of-last-resort were 3 party girls. My initial read was that they were drunk and out to get laid. Trackstar had opened them first and was bringing me into wing, and he thought otherwise, so I went in chill instead. Bad move. They were about 5 shots deep and from out of town. The correct approach would have been heavy, heavy physical molestation game on the two obstacles I was occupying, and trying to make out with both. Or alternatively, if we had a third wing we could all have tried to pull all three of them.
I ended up in a fairly normal conversation with the Asian girl, but the more I talked to her the more bored I got. She was physically attractive (not my usual type of girl, but a 7-7.5 on my scale), but as soon as she started talking about her charitable work, being a good girl and shit I got bored. That and she smokes. And after I got bored and turned away a bit, she gave some random dude her number LOL. The right approach here would have been to go into over-the-top attraction pieces and just push-pull and kino molest.
Ended the night having some back-and-forth with the three brunettes from earlier, and Trackstar taking one outside as I hopped in a taxi.
State
Building state when out with wings is not an issue. It really isn’t. As I’m writing this, I’m in state. BUT, state cannot overcome physical tiredness and your body clock. Maybe caffeine might help.
Review and Learnings
Before anything else, I’m going to spell it out loud: I HATE THE MISSION.
So first up, shit I should have done:
- More warmup sets at the first bar we stayed at. Just talk talk talk talk sets with little kino.
- Started going kino-heavy in the second venue immediately.
- Definitely going kino-heavy in the last venue. Those girls wanted to get laid.
- Help pull my wings into a better state and encourage them more.
- Been a better wing for Trackstar (sorry dude!).
Next, shit I did well:
- I went out. I could easily have stayed at home and slept.
- I did approaches. And I talked to dudes, which is something I usually don’t do.
- Spot-on reads on most of the sets, but I didn’t act on them or encourage my wings too.
Lastly, shit I need to work on:
- Going out at night. I still hate it. But I can either 1) barrel through it, or 2) learn to like it. Maybe some light NLP work and reframing it as a training session will help.
- Girls in San Francisco. Let’s face it: they’re chat. Most definitely compared to other international cities. I have a couple of options here- I can either continue to complain, as I’ve done for the past couple of months and be pickier (and hope to hell I have solid game when I meet the 8s, 9s and 10s), or I could change my standards. Effectively, I’d be lowering my standards to allow the great bulk of 6s and 7s that exist in San Francisco into my “fuckable” zone. Maybe this isn’t such a bad idea, as there are plenty more of them and it’ll prevent the weirdness that pervades nights like tonight from happening. One way that I can see of ecologically doing this is by reframing it to myself as “exploring different types of women”. So all those arty chicks, girls that smoke, emo girls, typically-ok-but-plain-jane San Francisco girls could all be included in this category. I am thinking that as long as I consider it “exploration” with the outcome in mind that I’m going to define and focus on hotter girls later it should be fine. I’m only in SF for another couple of months anyway.
- What DP talked about. In his usual manner he mentioned that we were choding out and not talking to all girls in the bar. Having read the above FR and the point above on Girls in SF you probably understand why I didn’t really want to. But, as a human being, I have to adapt to whatever the circumstances are, so I am going to alter my standards for women temporarily, as well as my perception of nightgame.
- Intensity of game. I feel like there are two different game routes I can take. Tonight I was being chill, lower-energy and generally using verbal hooks with light kino to carry most of my interactions. However, being intense and physical would have fared better. Different sets warrant different approaches. For girls who are out to party and are dancing and drinking and stuff, obviously the second and more physical approach is better. For girls just standing around, or at lower-energy venues the first approach is better, and gives me an opportunity work on my verbal game too. I should develop my skillset to the point where I can switch between the two and mix and match as necessary.
- Undoing bad habits. I have a really bad habit from MM days of doing physical takeaways during moments when tension is building. I need to do some NLP work to untangle this and learn to go with the tension and just push it more.
- My verbal game and stack. I have a lot of it ready to go courtesy of ET, but I really need to learn it and how to work it into both chill low-energy game/conversations as well as up-close physical game (i.e., tagging which pieces would work better with different energy-level sets).
- Find a way to remember girls’ names for sets where it matters. Some sets (drunk, party girls) it doesn’t matter and inoculating is better and not mentioning your name is better. For more serious sets, names are essential!
- whim
